Marriage is crumbling, and churches are AWOL

Over 60 years after the decline in the rate of marriage began in the 1960s due to the rise of the “free love” mentality, the results are more dismal than ever. In 1960, only 28% of adults were single. Now almost 50% of adults are single. Marriage rates are at their lowest ever in U.S. history.

This is a problem. While progressives love to tear down the traditional nuclear family, they can’t argue with the increasingly negative facts coming out. Cohabitation arrangements break up around five times more frequently than marriages, and unplanned pregnancies occur three times more often with cohabiting couples than married couples. Unmarried couples with children are three times more likely to split up and have lower incomes. Children without fathers are more likely to suffer an “Adverse Family Event,” which is abuse, neglect or other trauma. Disregarding the old saying “Marriage tames men” is why we are seeing a spike in bad behavior by men.

Two authors with extensive backgrounds in marriage and the Christian church have written a book, “Endgame: The Church’s Strategic Move to Save Faith and Family in America,” outlining the crisis and showing how the church has failed to address it – but also providing specific solutions to fix it. “Endgame” refers to the crumbling of marriage.

Co-author J.P. De Gance, a Catholic who came from the political sphere working for Americans for Prosperity, pioneered a marriage relationship project called Culture of Freedom – later rebranded as Communio – which had tremendous results. He launched it in several cities, working with churches and faith-based organizations. In Jacksonville, Florida, which had dismal marriage rates, divorces fell 24% after the three-year project, which focused on 58,912 couples.

Similarly, John Van Epp, an evangelical relationship expert, ran his own Christian marriage relationship service, Love Thinks. In one area in Indiana that he focused on, divorce rates dropped 20% over 10 years.

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What the authors found is that churches are lacking in marriage ministry. Three out of four churches don’t provide any substantive relationship courses or resources for married couples. And even though singles make up almost 50% of heads of households, more than 90% of churches don’t have an adult singles ministry.

What should be most alarming for Christians is the decline of relationship health is now the most significant factor in disrupting a relationship with Jesus. This is why church attendance is at its lowest rate ever on record in the U.S., 47%. In 2000, it was 70%. Church attendance is largely determined by one variable – parental marriage. Both children with unmarried parents and divorced parents were equally less likely to attend church.

Marriage crumbled because of the decoupling of sex, romantic partnerships and parenting. Today, the majority of couples have sex before starting a relationship. The authors point to online dating as one of the culprits – it’s made it easy to leave a relationship the instant a problem arises, because you can find a new romantic interest right away.

They found a correlation between atheism and lack of married parents. Millennials who were the least emotionally interested in attending church were also the least likely to report having a positive relationship with their parents. The 30 most well-known atheists in the world had a defective relationship with their fathers.

Progressives may pretend that Christians are no better off than the rest of the population, but the authors found that churchgoing Christians have sex more frequently and are happier in their sex life than those who don’t attend. While one quarter of couples in church have a struggling marriage, 39% of couples in general do.

Unfortunately, pastors don’t realize they’re not doing a good job in this area. While 93% of pastors counsel couples in crisis, 57% of them do not believe they are qualified enough. A “marriage 911” is lacking in the church. Churches spend lots of money on youth programs, but that’s not helping people stay in church.

The authors say we need to go out into the community to find couples to help, not expect them to come searching and find these services. It needs to be portrayed as something everyone needs, in order not to scare people away thinking it’s only for couples who are on the verge of breaking up; otherwise people will be afraid of the stigma.

The authors reveal what works as successful techniques. They teach couples to address problems early on in relationships. It’s a myth that good relationships don’t require work. The “balanced relationship” is an illusion. What is normal in a good relationship is this: About the time a couple feels that they have a routine that is working for them … life comes at them fast. One of the most valuable tasks the authors have couples do is to make a top-10 list of what they think their spouse wants and needs from them.

Emotional intelligence, also known as emotional quotient (EQ), is key to a good marriage. This means both interpersonal, which includes communicating with your spouse, and intrapersonal, the ability to monitor your own emotions and actions. Studies of people doing tasks who have somewhat higher EQs but also somewhat lower IQs than others reveal that the former perform better, shattering our traditional views of IQ.

The authors also emphasize the importance of both skills and virtues. Secular counseling focuses on skills, whereas Christian counseling tends to focus too much on just virtues. Skills include discernment, appreciation and expectation, self-control and commitment.

The authors conclude by saying the church needs to make marriage ministry and relationship outreach normal. Marital problems shouldn’t be left up to social agencies to handle. The secular world is going to continue to disparage marriage and continue the downward cycle that the misnamed so-called “free love” brings, so the church has to step up and stop the leak in the dam.



Transgender transgressions.

Here’s what one president had to say about the ethics of governance: “First and foremost, we should be governed by common sense. But common sense should be based on moral principles first. And it is not possible today to have morality separated from religious values.” If you guessed that it was Joe Biden who expressed that sentiment, you are excused; Mr. Biden, after all, is a self-declared “devout Catholic.”

The Rise and Fall of the Twin Terrors

If you thought the last wave of migrants to reach the southern border was big, just wait until the one currently traveling through Panama arrives. Panama’s foreign minister warned that 100,000 migrants are en route to the U.S. To date this year, U.S. Border Patrol agents conducting biometric testing at migrant camps in Panama have identified 52 persons “in some way affiliated with al-Qaeda,” according to reporter Chuck Holton. That’s nearly three times the number of al-Qaeda operatives that perpetrated the hijackings of 9/11. And that’s just the terrorists we’ve caught.

For younger readers who know about the 9/11 attacks as history, not a memory (anyone under 25), America resolved to preempt future attacks by pursuing and destroying terrorist networks around the world. This led to the invasion of Afghanistan and ousting of the Taliban government, which had provided al-Qaeda with a safe haven. Al-Qaeda’s power has never been the same since. It tried to reconstitute itself in different nations and under different names (including ISIS), but each time American-led forces crushed it.

But now, in the same year that America withdraws from Afghanistan, ceding control of the country to the Taliban, persons tied to al-Qaeda are once again trying to infiltrate the United States. While there may be no direct, causal link between America’s flight from Afghanistan and the resurgence of al-Qaeda operatives aiming for the border, both point to the fact that the U.S. is less secure against terror threats today than it was a year ago.

“The really scary thing is that so many of these people are not on any list at all,” continued Holton. Border

Patrol agents not only encounter Latin Americans in Panama, but also “people from Afghanistan, and Syria, and Bangladesh, and Indonesia, and Somalia, and all over Africa.” Many present no official documents; either “they don’t have a passport, or they hide it.” If someone grew up in, say, Syria, they have no “biometric history floating around out there.” A 20-year-old Syrian would have been an infant when American forces exploded the al-Qaeda network. If terror cells are radicalizing and recruiting young men from obscure regions with no records, there is no way for border agents to detect such would-be terrorists traveling to America. So the 52 persons whom officials apprehended were only the ones with previously known terrorist links; the younger generation of terrorists is undetectable.

Our vulnerability to terrorist infiltration is especially infuriating because it is entirely preventable. Those traveling through Panama “are one hundred percent economic migrants” to the U.S., said Holton. They may have fled war or oppression in their home country, but “they have to cross through sometimes nine or ten other countries that are not facing war or oppression.” Oftentimes, “they’ve been making a living” for years in one of these countries. Thus, they don’t meet the definition of refugees or asylum-seekers. “They’re only now deciding to come to the United States because Joe Biden is president and they know they can get in,” explained Holton.

Many migrants, such as the Haitians in Del Rio earlier this year, traverse the hemisphere to enter the United States. “When Haitians leave Haiti,” Holton said, they “go through South America, and then come up through Colombia, and walk through the dangerous Darien Gap (“a six day walk with no food”) between Colombia and Panama.” From there, they can follow the Pan-American Highway for another 2,500 miles, all the way to the U.S. Somewhere along the way, persons from all over the world, including some with al-Qaeda connections, join the throng.

September 11th ignited a spark in the American people to stand up and fight a war on terror. But the Biden administration, rather than proactively working to protect the American people, has left the border wide open to anyone with any intention. It’s time for the Biden administration to remember what happened on September 11th 20 years ago and to take action to protect the American people.

Family Research Council

Fauci needs to answer for this!

Our investigators show that Fauci’s NIH division shipped part of a $375,800 grant to a lab in Tunisia to drug beagles and lock their heads in mesh cages filled with hungry sand flies so that the insects could eat them alive,” White Coat Waste said.ByChristian Spencer | Oct. 22, 2021White Coat Waste

Story at a glance:

  • A bipartisan letter demands answers from the director of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases and President Biden’s chief medical adviser.
  • House members, most of whom are Republicans, want Fauci to explain himself in response to allegations brought on by the White Coat Waste Project that involve drugging puppies.
  • Allegedly, 44 beagle puppies were used in a North Africa laboratory, and some of the dogs had their vocal cords removed so scientists could work without incessant barking.

A bipartisan letter demands answers from the director of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases and President Biden’s chief medical adviser.

The White Coat Waste Project, the nonprofit organization that first pointed out that U.S. taxpayers were being used to fund the controversial Wuhan Institute of Virology, have now turned its sights on Anthony Fauci on another animal-testing-related matter — infecting dozens of beagles with disease-causing parasites to test an experimental drug on them.

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House members, most of whom are Republicans, want Fauci to explain himself in response to allegations brought on by the White Coat Waste Project that involve drugging puppies.

According to the White Coat Waste Project, the Food and Drug Administration does not require drugs to be tested on dogs, so the group is asking why the need for such testing. 

White Coat Waste claims that 44 beagle puppies were used in a Tunisia, North Africa, laboratory, and some of the dogs had their vocal cords removed, allegedly so scientists could work without incessant barking.

Leading the effort is Rep. Nancy Mace (R-S.C.), writing a letter to the National Institutes of Health (NIH) saying the cordectomies are “cruel” and a “reprehensible misuse of taxpayer funds.” 

“Our investigators show that Fauci’s NIH division shipped part of a $375,800 grant to a lab in Tunisia to drug beagles and lock their heads in mesh cages filled with hungry sand flies so that the insects could eat them alive,” White Coat Waste told Changing America. “They also locked beagles alone in cages in the desert overnight for nine consecutive nights to use them as bait to attract infectious sand flies.”

Mace’s letter was signed by Reps. Cindy Axne (D-Iowa), Cliff Bentz (R-Ore.), Steve Cohen (D-Tenn.), Rick Crawford (R-Ark.), Brian Fitzpatrick (R-Pa.), Scott Franklin (R-Fla.), Andrew Garbarino (R-N.Y.), Carlos Gimenez (R-Fla.), Jimmy Gomez (D-Calif.), Josh Gottheimer (D-N.J.), Fred Keller (R-Pa.), Ted Lieu (D-Calif.), Lisa McClain (R-Mich.), Nicole Malliotakis (R-N.Y.), Brian Mast (R-Fla.), Scott Perry (R-Pa.), Bill Posey (R-Fla.), Mike Quigley (D-Ill.), Lucille Roybal-Allard (D-Calif.), Maria E. Salazar (R-Fla.), Terri Sewell (D-Ala.), Daniel Webster (R-Fla.) and Del. Eleanor Holmes Norton (D-D.C.)

The National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases did not immediately respond to a request for comment from Changing America. 

Leftists, you have a heart of stone if you don’t speak up to Fauci grilled on this.